>> How do I separate the anxiety about the booms from anxiety about my job, or the agoraphobia, or the roaches that I still freak out over all the time? <<
The first step is what you just did, listing the separate triggers.
Next, compare whether the different triggers have different effects (i.e. does one make you shake while another makes you short of breath) or duration (does one last longer). Then consider whether they respond to different coping skills (maybe you need a warm blanket for one but soothing music for another).
The more you can distinguish them, the easier it will be to recognize which is bothering you at a given moment and, thus, the most effective way to fix it. Think of these as circles in a Venn diagram. They want to stack closely together with lots of overlap. You want to pry them apart so you can work on them separately.
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The first step is what you just did, listing the separate triggers.
Next, compare whether the different triggers have different effects (i.e. does one make you shake while another makes you short of breath) or duration (does one last longer). Then consider whether they respond to different coping skills (maybe you need a warm blanket for one but soothing music for another).
The more you can distinguish them, the easier it will be to recognize which is bothering you at a given moment and, thus, the most effective way to fix it. Think of these as circles in a Venn diagram. They want to stack closely together with lots of overlap. You want to pry them apart so you can work on them separately.